Canadian artist For Esmé delivers on the first single “Doubtmouth” taken from her upcoming LP, a powerful message about being tired of letting men shut her down.
Exhausted by a world where men get to impose their opinions to her, she decided that that time is now over. She is not going to be called “angry” or “opinionated” for just knowing what she wants. The powerful message is wrapped in synth-pop sounds with a touch of catchy lyrics. About her own experience, For Esmé wrote to us:
Over the past few years I’ve worked in four different all male teams for different jobs and I was exhausted from all the tiptoeing I felt I had to do be heard. I found repeatedly that if I spoke the same way the men on my team spoke, that I would be treated negatively for being ‘too confident’ or ‘too outspoken’ or ‘too combative’ — even though it was precisely these traits that got me those positions in the first place. I have experienced being labeled an ‘angry woman’ first hand, and I am a very level person.
“I have experienced being labeled an ‘angry woman’ first hand, and I am a very level person.” – For Esmé
I dove into some psych studies and found the results disturbing. In a blind test, when men and women promote the exact same opinion assertively to a group (word for word), subjects overwhelmingly shift their opinions to agree with the man when he speaks, and are more likely to push against and oppose the same view if it comes from a woman. It was a relief to discover this wasn’t in my head, but it was also incredibly frustrating — if the bias runs that deep in both men and women, how do we overcome it?